More wonderful childhood memories
30 Jun 2012 2 Comments
in Body, mind and spirit Tags: birthday, camping, childhood, dad, drives, family, happy, ice cream, kind, memories, mom, outings
The story of the toothfairy
30 Jun 2012 7 Comments
in Body, mind and spirit Tags: bedroom, childhood, excited, fairy, father, house, money, mother, pillow, tooth
Interesting couple of weeks ahead
28 Jun 2012 6 Comments
in Body, mind and spirit Tags: confused, depression, move, overwhelmed, sleep, upset
Well today is another day,I never went to bed last night because I was so upset with what had transpired earlier last night with my friend Colin, I am feeling confused, overwhelmed and wondering what I’m supposed to be doing about this move now it seems my life is literally hanging in the balance.
Sometimes I wonder if I should not just be alone with the kids no hassles no headaches and due to the fact that in the past I have had nothing but people interfere in my life perhaps I might be better off living alone.
I have packed most of my boxes in the apartment and not much else really to do except go through all of my papers.
In the last week I have pulled off several all nighters and think at this point it is catching up with me because all I want to do is sleep, not only that I think because of everything going on in my life now I also want to sleep even more depression has really got the better of me as of late and would like to have the day over.
So, I heard from my movers today through e-mail and they have set a date for me July 18th have tried to call Colin and he was out and has yet to call me back I tried calling two times today.
I am very tired and think I will call it a night enough blogging for one day.
Packing day
27 Jun 2012 2 Comments
in Body, mind and spirit Tags: chinese food, environment, heaviness, migraine headache, overwhelmed, packing, struggle
Hello everyone:
Well, today has been full of surprises, my friend Claudette who is 73 and has been a close friend of mine for years now took me out to dinner for chinese food what a wonderful environment to be in it was so relaxing and don’t feel any heaviness like we both do where we both live.
Claudette has also helped me do some of my packing but most of the time I just tell her to sit down just having her keep me company is enough, I have boxes all over my small 275 foot apartment my cats are wondering what on earth is going on and seriously overwhelmed with everything.
I spoke with Colin, another friend of mine this evening and have to say I’m not in the least bit impressed at the moment he is a smoker and keeps coughing in my ear when we are on the phone knowing full well it gives me a headache, I have asked him I don’t know how many times to stop but no it still continues and getting to the point of shouting at him now because it doesn’t seem like he listens to me I’m sick and tired of it already I have a migraine headache now.
Today when I had gone across the street to Shoppers for boxes I had come back home with boxes in the cart as I was struggling to keep them in my cart some people outside the building where I live were looking at me and not one person asked me if I needed help but yet again they have no problem asking me why I need boxes I have to tell you I’m ready to tell them all off I’m so sick and tired of this place.
Assertiveness: Myth’s versus Reality?
27 Jun 2012 Leave a comment
in Body, mind and spirit Tags: accept, aggresive, assertive, boundaries, courteous, polite, relationships, respect
A marriage made in hell
27 Jun 2012 1 Comment
in Body, mind and spirit Tags: abuse, acceptance, assertive, cancer, disrespect, divorce, heart disease, in-laws, marriage, marrigae, prostitute, relationship, self-esteem, sex, shelter
My rights as a person and mistaken traditional assumptions
27 Jun 2012 6 Comments
in Body, mind and spirit Tags: acceptance, assumptions, criticism, emotional, feelings, judge, justify, legitimate, minimize, relationships, respect, rights, selfish, shelter
- Mistaken traditional assumption It is selfish to put our needs first before others needs.
- My rights I have the right to put myself first..this Is something that I have just started doing over the last few months as I am so used to not even thinking about myself.
- Mistaken traditional assumption It’s shameful to make mistakes we need to have an appropiate response for every occasion.
- My rights Well considering we do not live In a perfect world we all have the right to make mistakes as no one is perfect.
- Mistaken traditional assumption If we can not convince others that our feelings are reasonable then our feelings must be wrong.
- My rights I have the right to be the judge of my feelings and feel that they are legitimate, all through my life and my relationships my feelings have been minimized It seemed that unless I felt the same way as others did I was led to believe that I am over exagerating and that It was never a big deal and told to just “get over It”.
- Mistaken traditional assumption We should respect views of others especially so If they are In a position of authority we should keep opinions to ourselves
- My rights Oh boy this one is huge for me, due to past experiences the way It was even without people that were In a position of authority I would not disagree with others of course within reason simply because I did not want people to make my life harder than It already was and It was also an acceptance thing so I have realized now that I do have a right to have my own opinions and convictions no matter what anyone says although It does not mean that others have to agree.
- Mistaken traditional assumption We should always be logical and consistent.
- My rights Although I am logical most of the time when I get very upset and angry my sense of logic goes right out the window and try to be consistent most of the time as well.
- Mistaken traditional assumption We should be flexible and adjust. Others have good reasons for their actions and not polite to question them.
- My rights I do have the right to protest what I do not like, treatment, critisism and the like anything that does not feel good to me regardless of what others think.
- Mistaken traditional assumption We should not ask questions as It reveals stupidity to others.
- My rights I do have the right as well as anyone else to ask for clarification If I do not understand something this does not mean that I am stupid which I thought for so many years and now I really dont care what others think of me to my way of understanding now If a person asks questions It means that the person has an Interest In the subject.
- Mistaken tradional assumption Things could get even worse so dont rock the boat.
- My rights For many years I believed this thats why I became a people pleaser but have now come to realize over time that I do have the right to negotiate for change even If I do rock the boat I have since realized that although people might not like what I have to say I do have the right to freedom of speech It Is part of our charter of rights and freedoms.
- Mistaken traditonal assumption We should not take up others valuable time with our problems.
- My rights We all have the right to ask for help or emotional support all throughout my life I have been told not to bother them with my Issues and problems and really getting sick and tired of people telling me to just “get over It” In my opinion If someone comes to you and pours their heart out to you they want/need to have a listening ear In my case all I ever really wanted was someone to listen to me and give me some kind of emotional support or even a hug could have made all the difference to me and after reading my life story you will know why.
- Mistaken traditonal assumption Other people do not want to hear that you feel bad, so keep It to yourself.
- My rights I do have the right to feel and express all of my pain, most of the reason why I write In my blog is so that I can express all of that because other people In my past that I have tried to reach out to have not wanted to hear how I have felt and am not a stranger to the fact that others have minimized the ways that I have felt.
- Mistaken traditional assumption Knowing that you did something well is Its own reward people dont like showoffs. Successful people are secretly disliked and envied. Be modest when complimented.
- My rights I do have the right to recieve recogntion for all my hard work and achievements thats one thing I like to have is recognition for a job well done I welcome that anytime recogntion for me Is very Important more than likely because I have been so used to put downs since I left home from people In my relationships, and Inlaws.
- Mistaken traditional assumption We should always try to accomodate others. If we dont they wont be there when we need them.
- My rights I have the right to say “no” I struggled with this up until I left Alpha House being the people pleaser that I once was, all I ever did was accomodate others and get treated like shit and betrayed In return well Im pleased to say not no more.
- Mistaken traditional assumption Dont be anti-social with people as they will think that you dont like them If you say that you would rather be alone Instead of with them.
- My rights I have the right to be alone even If others would prefer my company, for the longest time I had thought the mistaken traditional assumption and actually cared what others thought of me and was sociable even though I did not want to be and now If I want my space I say so and dont care what others think because my real friends will understand and accept It.
- Mistaken traditional assumption You should always have a good reason for what you feel and do.
- My rights We all have a right to not to have to justify ourselves to other people, I have struggled with this for many many years, I finally after later In life to find out that I justified myself to others as a way of people trying to accept me needless to say It didnt work and bit me In the ass years later so now I no longer justify myself or my actions to others eithier they like me or they dont.
- Mistaken traditonal assumption When someone is In trouble we should always help them.
- My rights I have the right not to take on someone elses responsibilty for somone elses problem well this one was tough for me because what I do Is just automatically help others no matter what however since I have slowed down In life I have my own problems to worry about and about the best that I can do for others now is to give some good wise advice from my own lifes experiences shoud I have any for them and It will be their choice If they take It or not.
- Mistaken traditional assumption Its not nice to put people off , If questioned, give an answer.
- My rights We all have the right to choose not to respond to a given situation….many years ago I used to worry constantly about doing such a thing always thought that I had to answer If questioned about something should not put people off and now I have realized no matter what a person does, thinks or speaks It is the other persons choice on how they respond.
A brand new start
26 Jun 2012 6 Comments
in Health and wellness Tags: black mold, blood pressure, calgary, calm, emotional support, financial stability, healthy, homeless, housing, jobs, moving, peace, stress, winnipeg
Hello everyone:
Well, today I am filled with peace and very calm my blood pressure has not risen at all.
I am so looking forward to whats in store for me in the next couple of weeks and although the moving will be stressful enough It will be a welcome change to be in a bigger city that has nothing but friendly people not to mention there are a ton of jobs out there in Calgary that I can apply for as well as feel safer on the streets walking.
Colin, my friend has done so much for me been a listening ear, giving me so much emotional support, saw me through being homeless out on the west coast and now he’s going to welcome me into his home so that I can get healthy as I am not very healthy now due to the issues in housing like black mold that I must, at the moment deal with.
Colin, my friend I have to tell you that he has done more for me than most people I know and helped me out of so many tight binds. I will be moving in with him for a while until I get myself set up with a good job and have some financial stability behind me.
I’m looking forward to moving out of here although the issue of packing is really very stressful especially having to go through so many papers and sorting stuff out , however, the good news is that I’m over half way done thank god I cant wait to get this move over with and out of this province for good.
Good-Bye Winnipeg Manitoba
What a great day
24 Jun 2012 Leave a comment
in Health and wellness Tags: alcoholic, black mold, health, managers, mental-health, money, office, stress, stress level, surprises, transportation, work
Hello everyone:
Well, today I must say has been full of surprises as mentioned in my previous blogs I have just finished pulling off three all nighters in a row needless to say I’m quite tired so went to bed relatively early last night being Friday and slept in until 1230PM Saturday, I had to be at work by 1PM and as it ended up I was late not impressed with myself to say the least.
I had problems signing in to my EZlabour which Is our timesheet sort of speak and by the time I got to dialing on the phone well it was 1:40pm what a way to start off the day and it only got worse from there, I was not feeling very well to start with aches and pains literally I found it so very hard to even get up from my chair and move around, got called into the field managers office and had been written up got in trouble for getting up and getting a more comfortable chair to sit in funny how I never had a problem doing that before no one ever said anything to me in the last year was told to go home early ask me If I was happy.
Got home and Allan who used to be a friend of mine and no longer is after today approached me to ask me for $0.80 cents not that it is a problem however when you add up all the change I have given him over the last few years It certainly adds up and not once did I ask for it back nor has ever offered to pay it back to me I had warned him about asking me for money he is an alcoholic and I’m sick and tired of enabling him and supporting his habit and finally today was the last straw I shut him down for good.
On a happy note though when I got home from work I met up with Claudette who is a very good friend of mine we are very close went over to the Norwood Hotel across the street I had french onion soup and Claudette had a cup of coffee as she had already ate her dinner we had a good visit when we arrived back in the apartment block that’s when shit hit the fan with me and Allan from then on I was so upset I felt my blood pressure rise with a headache and pain in my collar-bone not a good situation and have calmed down after a few hours of venting at Colin my friend for twenty-five years I tell you some days I don’t know what I would do without him.