Positive strategies for dealing with change

Dear fellow bloggers and followers

Long ago when I was still living in Winnipeg I had taken a job re-entry program because I had been out of work for sometime. While I was there we were given quite a few handouts and this is one of them which I would like to share with you

Constructive strategies for dealing with change
1. Join or develop a support group.
2. Reduce making decisions for example can you postpone making an important decision especially during times of higher stress?.
3. Take small steps versus taking a giant leap.
4. Practice effective stress management techniques.
5. Try a new behaviour and give it time.
6. Practice an approach to health and self-care, good food, exercise, plenty of rest, recreation and good behaviour.
7. Seek professional help if and when you need it such as a lawyer, doctor, counsellor, accountant these are just some examples.
8. Learn to identify and overcome fears
Don’t fear failure, learn from it.
9. Accept reality and adjust your expectations.
10. Let go of the past, of what was.
I know this one is really hard to do as I held on to the past for 23 years and was finally able to let it go if you need help with this send me an email @Elaine.s@live.ca.
11. Try to affirm what was good in a situation and transfer that lesson or knowledge to a new situation.
12. Develop good communication skills.
13. Express your feelings about the change.
14. Vent or mourn you have that right.
15. Sharpen your interpersonal skills.
16. Adopt a problem solving approach to change although this may be hard to see at the time believe it or not every problem does have a solution, for me, I pray and leave it in the hands of god and ask for his wisdom and guidance.
17. Develop flexibility and be adaptable.
18. Have the desire to change, I always embrace change that’s how we grow as a person.
19. Get ready for change for example prepare yourself mentally, emotionally, physically and spiritually.
20. Examine possible ways to change and be sure to consider the consequences to those around you.
21. Be open-minded to the new and unknown. Cultivate curiosity.
22. Believe in yourself, have faith in yourself. Deepen your self-confidence with positive and self talk statements (sometimes this is a hard one for me to do).
23. Be optimistic and hopeful that can sometimes be hard to do.
24. Accept the change.
Change is inevitable and a part of life so embrace it.
25. Take care of yourself spiritually for example go to your sanctuary, breathe deeply, meditate, reflect, and/or pray.
26. Practice patience with yourself, be kind to yourself and remember that forming a new habit and changing an old one does take a minimum of three weeks.
27. Take initiative and be a learner try to learn something new each day, I do.
28. Get some perspective on the situation such as taking a break by distance or distracting yourself for a while in order to think about it more clearly and objectively.
29. Volunteer.
30. Dream and imagine.
31. Visualize yourself already having gone through the change and coming out successfully on the other side.
32. Dance.
33. Play sports.
34. Try cooking (this one really helps me when I’m stressed out and very upset).

Your quote for the day


Every experience we have is for a reason.
We can learn, grow and become stronger as a person.


Letting go

To let go does not mean to stop caring, it means I can’t do it for someone else.

To let go is not to cut myself off, it is the realization I can’t control another

To let go is not to enable, but to allow learning from natural consequences.

To let go is not to admit powerlessness,  which means the outcome is not in my hands.

To let go is not to try to blame or change another, it is to make the most of myself.

To let go is not to care for, but to care about.

To let go is not to fix, but to be supportive.

To let go is not to judge, but allow another to be a human being.

To let go is not to be in the middle of arranging all the outcomes, but to allow others to affect their own destinies.

To let go is not to be protective, it is to permit another to face reality.

To let go is not to deny, but to accept.

To let go is not to nag, sold or argue, but to instead search out my own shortcomings and to correct them.

To let go is not to criticize and regulate anybody, but to try to become what I dream I can be.

To let go is not to regret the past, but to grow and to live for the future.

To let go is to fear less and to love more.

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After a while

After a while you learn the subtle difference between holding a hand and chaining a soul.

And you learn that love doesn’t mean leaning and company doesn’t always mean security.

And you begin to learn that kisses aren’t contracts and presents aren’t promises.

You begin to accept defeats with your head up and your eyes ahead with the grace of a woman and the grief of a child.

You learn to build all your roads on today because tomorrow’s ground is too uncertain for plans and futures have a way of falling down in mid-flight.

After a while you learn that even sunshine burns if you get too much

So you plant your own garden and decorate your own soul instead of waiting for someone to bring you flowers.

And you learn that you really can endure that you really are strong and you really do have worth and you learn with ever goodbye.

Many blessings have a great day


Women have strengths that amaze men.

They hear hardships and they carry burdens, but they hold happiness and joy.

They smile when they want to scream.

They sing when they want to cry.

They cry when they are happy and laugh when they are nervous.

They fight for what they believe in.

They stand up to injustice.

They don’t take no for an answer when they believe there is a better solution.

They go without so their family can have.

They go to the doctor with a frightened friend.

They love unconditionally.

They cry when their children excel and cheer when their friends get awards.

They are happy when they hear about a birth or a wedding.

Their hearts break when a friend dies.

They grieve at the loss of a family member yet they are strong when they think there is no strength left.

They know that a hug and kiss can heal a broken heart.
Women come in all shapes, sizes and colours

They’ll  drive, fly, walk, run or email you to show how much they care about you.

The heart of a woman is what makes the world keep turning.

They bring joy, love and hope.

They have the compassion and ideas.

They give moral support to their family and friends.

Women have vital things to say and everything to give.

However, if there is one flaw in women it is that they forget their own self worth.

So ladies from me to you be proud of who you are and what you do, stand up for your rights and if people do not accept you for who you are they are not worth associating with.

Many blessings to each and every one of you

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